#MeToo. These two words since Sunday night have carried a lot of weight. By now you have probably come across several social media posts with the status: “#MeToo. If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “MeToo” as a status we might give people the sense of magnitude of the problem.”
By now, there are 12 Million posts with that hashtag. Millions of conversations happening online and off-line. Women and men all around the world are sharing publicly that they have been sexually assaulted, harassed or abused. In a matter of hours past memories and private secrets have been brought to the surface, often for the first time.
If you are one of us, you didn’t just read those posts, you wrote one. Maybe you didn’t post anything, but you could have. Maybe it is too painful, too recent, too private. You are not ready to share; it’s too humiliating and too overwhelming.
I know that far too well. It happened to #MeToo. I understand. I really do. I understand the pain, the shame, the confusion, the guilt, the powerlessness. I know the feeling of not knowing what to do afterwards for hours, for days, for weeks, for months. I know about being filled with fear that no one would listen to you, that no one would believe you. I know about not being sure if, in some way, it was your fault, if you could or should have done something differently. The hardest thing to live with, however, is the thought that that incident changed something, that something precious was taken away, that in some way you became permanently damaged by that incident.
That Satan’s lie and it can ruin your life. It is a lie that Satan uses to tie you down. But, it is a lie, not the truth. And, it is certainly not a truth about who you are.
As you are surrounded by the multitude of #MeToo messages from various media sources, you might find yourself re-living some of those painful moments. Maybe you thought that by putting it out there you would experience the freedom you needed, but instead deeper and stronger emotions were triggered.
Maybe you never had a chance to talk about it. Maybe you felt no one would believe you. Maybe you felt ashamed and embarrassed or humiliated. Maybe you thought “it” remained in the past, but the recent days’ events are reminding you of “it” bringing pain.
If you have experienced any hurt or pain, we at PCC pastoral care want you to know that we are here for you. Please don’t go through this alone. We are here to talk with you and pray with you. You can email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. We also keep a list of Christian professional counselors all around LA and we are glad to give you referrals if needed.
More importantly, do not believe the lies of the enemy. You are not defined by the sexual sin done against you. You are not defined by wounds caused by the brokenness in this world. You are defined by Christ and who you are in him. You have been washed by the cleansing blood of Jesus and made whiter than snow (Psalm 51:7). Jesus has fully redeemed your past.
You are his precious daughter or son that he honors and loves (Isaiah 43:4). You are his masterpiece created for the good works God has prepared beforehand (Eph.2:10). You are the apple of his eye (Psalm 17:8). You are a people holy to the Lord, and he has chosen you to be his treasured possession (Deut.14:2).
It happened to #MeToo – and I was restored by Christ for his glory.